"Lately, my faith has been teaching me to better embrace grief. The Bible is filled with examples of deep mourning: the loss of a homeland, the loss of political independence, the loss of a child, the loss of a Savior. These are not happy stories..."
It will take the longest days and the sleeplessness, and it will take the anger and misunderstanding and the exile and the loneliness. It will take you making it through this.
It’s been a week now since the release of the Statement on God’s Justice. Over 1,000 signatures later, I ask myself what the Statement has meant and what it will mean.
I had worried that as the sole Christian in my family, my coming out to my mother would hurt what Christians call my “witness”: the theology I live to demonstrate to others who God is. How can you be a Christian, she asked me then, if you are gay?
There's a prevailing Western notion that it's only by loving yourself that you learn to love others. But self-love - and self-love first and foremost - can seem unattainable for many of us, and especially anyone who struggles with shame.
So, in the face of all opposition, why did I decide to get married?
Zora Now that Pride month is over in the U.S. (boo!), all our favorite stores are back on their cis-/heteronormative sales train. Yesterday I passed by some coffee mugs branded with, “Soon To Be Her Mr.” and “Soon To Be His Mrs.” (I’m a Maxxinista for life, but T.J. Maxx sure has some gaudy heteronormative [...]
Our wedding was a sacrament. In the Christian tradition, all weddings are sacraments. And queer weddings are sacraments too and are sacraments especially.
Last winter, Zora had asked me to write about mental health. I couldn’t finish the post. I was scared and ashamed.
Zora [Content warning: suicide, PTSD] I recently read Finding God in the Waves by Mike McHargue (AKA Science Mike). In a nutshell, it’s about the author’s journey from evangelical Christianity to atheism to mainline Christianity - all while riding a seriously science-y rollercoaster. Mike’s story resonated with me partly due to my interest in [...]