There's a prevailing Western notion that it's only by loving yourself that you learn to love others. But self-love - and self-love first and foremost - can seem unattainable for many of us, and especially anyone who struggles with shame.
Zora [Content warning: suicide, PTSD] I recently read Finding God in the Waves by Mike McHargue (AKA Science Mike). In a nutshell, it’s about the author’s journey from evangelical Christianity to atheism to mainline Christianity - all while riding a seriously science-y rollercoaster. Mike’s story resonated with me partly due to my interest in [...]
...Both translations of disappointment hurt because they incite us to determine our own self-worth with the never-satisfied measuring stick of our perceived worth to others.
Zora During the first few months of college, I had a difficult time making close friends. It wasn’t because I was queer; I hadn’t yet realized that I was. It wasn’t that I was unlikeable; I had made plenty of casual friendships. When it came time for our first break on Indigenous Peoples' Weekend, I [...]