There's a prevailing Western notion that it's only by loving yourself that you learn to love others. But self-love - and self-love first and foremost - can seem unattainable for many of us, and especially anyone who struggles with shame.
When you’re a woman in the United States, cutting your hair can be a big deal. People suddenly think you need their opinion.
So, in the face of all opposition, why did I decide to get married?
Zora Now that Pride month is over in the U.S. (boo!), all our favorite stores are back on their cis-/heteronormative sales train. Yesterday I passed by some coffee mugs branded with, “Soon To Be Her Mr.” and “Soon To Be His Mrs.” (I’m a Maxxinista for life, but T.J. Maxx sure has some gaudy heteronormative [...]
Our wedding was a sacrament. In the Christian tradition, all weddings are sacraments. And queer weddings are sacraments too and are sacraments especially.
Last winter, Zora had asked me to write about mental health. I couldn’t finish the post. I was scared and ashamed.
Zora [Content warning: suicide, PTSD] I recently read Finding God in the Waves by Mike McHargue (AKA Science Mike). In a nutshell, it’s about the author’s journey from evangelical Christianity to atheism to mainline Christianity - all while riding a seriously science-y rollercoaster. Mike’s story resonated with me partly due to my interest in [...]
...Both translations of disappointment hurt because they incite us to determine our own self-worth with the never-satisfied measuring stick of our perceived worth to others.
Zora During the first few months of college, I had a difficult time making close friends. It wasn’t because I was queer; I hadn’t yet realized that I was. It wasn’t that I was unlikeable; I had made plenty of casual friendships. When it came time for our first break on Indigenous Peoples' Weekend, I [...]
Before you hear how I came out to my small-town, evangelical, New England family, we should talk about the term “coming out.”
