There's a prevailing Western notion that it's only by loving yourself that you learn to love others. But self-love - and self-love first and foremost - can seem unattainable for many of us, and especially anyone who struggles with shame.
Zora Now that Pride month is over in the U.S. (boo!), all our favorite stores are back on their cis-/heteronormative sales train. Yesterday I passed by some coffee mugs branded with, “Soon To Be Her Mr.” and “Soon To Be His Mrs.” (I’m a Maxxinista for life, but T.J. Maxx sure has some gaudy heteronormative [...]
Zora [Content warning: suicide, PTSD] I recently read Finding God in the Waves by Mike McHargue (AKA Science Mike). In a nutshell, it’s about the author’s journey from evangelical Christianity to atheism to mainline Christianity - all while riding a seriously science-y rollercoaster. Mike’s story resonated with me partly due to my interest in [...]
...Both translations of disappointment hurt because they incite us to determine our own self-worth with the never-satisfied measuring stick of our perceived worth to others.
Zora During the first few months of college, I had a difficult time making close friends. It wasn’t because I was queer; I hadn’t yet realized that I was. It wasn’t that I was unlikeable; I had made plenty of casual friendships. When it came time for our first break on Indigenous Peoples' Weekend, I [...]